For me, one of the hardest things to do is flat out telling someone their mistakes or shortcomings. I try to be polite and ignore people's downsides, but when it comes to friends it's hard to do. I don't want to hurt them by telling the truth but sometimes I feel that I'm hurting them more by not saying anything. For instance, one of my friends never realized that her jokes sometimes go overboard and are more offending than funny. I knew the best thing to do is to tell her how I felt and how everyone else felt about her jokes, but I just couldn't ever bring myself to do it. I felt that I conquered a giant obstacle in my life once I gathered up the courage to tell her the truth. I realized that it wasn't about me, I had to protect my friend from her unknown mistake. Once I did it, I figured out it wasn't that bad. Though my friend took it a little personally at first, she later realized that I was trying to help her and she ended up thanking me. Then she got a little mad for not telling her before and said she'd never mind anything I tell her. So everything turned out okay.
I just wanted to share this small, irrelevant story with you all. It could deal with overcoming any obstacle in life. Sometimes the best thing to do is the hardest, but all you have to do is muster enough courage to try and see what happens.
"Shoot for the moon, even if you miss you'll land among the stars."
You could be missing more by not trying.
-Sabrina
4 comments:
sorry I had to delete my comment b/c I wanted to add to my original comment so here it is:
yeah, usually the right thing to do is the hardest. Correcting your friends to make them better people is probably going to help them in the long run even if they don't like it at first. But when you correct them for everything they do, it is beyond annoying. This reminds me of a friend I have who corrects everyone and judges people based on her expectations. We all (her friends) go crazyyyyy!!!!!!!
Telling people that they're wrong is a skill that takes an entire lifetime to develop.
It's definitely hard. But if you really care for your friends, you'll be willing to sacrifice a few moments of their good opinion in return for the assurance that you've changed them for the better.
please don't say that you're talking about me,
please don't say this BLOG is about me,
please say that this "girl" is someone i know that does not exist...
PLEASE OH PRETTY PLEASE
:)
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